Written by Kristi Spence, LMFT-C Christmas is coming, and it can be a magical time for families. It can also be very stressful between shopping, adjusting to new schedules, trying to fit in all the festivities, and seeing family and friends. If you have kids, you will likely experience more meltdowns and chaos due to […]
Three Tips for Dealing with Separation Anxiety
Written by Kristi Spence, LMFT-C Do you dread dropping off your child at school or daycare? Do you feel completely helpless as you watch your child scream and cry in desperation for you to stay? Meltdowns, crying, and excessive clinging are all signs that your child may be struggling with separation anxiety. While separation anxiety […]
How to get your teens to listen without yelling
Written by Kristi Spence, LMFT-C Do you ever get tired of yelling at your teen? Or maybe you feel like the only punishments you know how to administer are either a grounding or taking his or her phone away? While you may feel like your teen has a superpower in rebelling, there are several ways […]
Successful Co-parenting Tip: Don’t Put Your Kids in the Middle
Written by Kristi Spence, LMFT-C As a co-parent, your relationship with your ex-spouse can be extremely stressful. Do you struggle with trying to agree on different rules in different houses? Or determining who pays for what? Or maybe you are still trying to manage your own anger surrounding the divorce. With all of the inevitable […]
Setting Yourself up for Success: How to Start Difficult Conversations with your Partner
Written by Raechel Russo, LMFT-C If you’re in a committed relationship, it is likely that you have had some uncomfortable conversations with your partner. It is an inevitable fact of relationships that partners will disagree at times. When you do need to have these difficult talks, how can you start them in a way that […]
Practicing the Skill of Containment # EMDR
Dr. Leedy, Ph.D. Psychologist at Legacy Counseling Service in Broken Arrow, Oklahoma share one idea for how to practice the skill of containment from a Christian perspective. While containment is an EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) skill, it can be useful for anyone regardless of what type of mental health therapy they are getting.
Common Reactions to the Coronavirus/COVID-19 and Ways To Cope
Understanding how you are dealing with the Coronavirus/COVID-19 can be helpful in finding ways to cope. In this video, Dr. Melissa Leedy, Ph.D. Psychologist talks about common reactions to the crisis and ways that you can cope better.
Coping with the Coronavirus
Written by Sandy Stone, LPC As I enter week two of self-isolating due to the Coronavirus, my thoughts are on those of you who are already struggling with anxiety and depression. So often unknown situations can amp up one’s anxiety, and self-isolation can be detrimental to one who is depressed. So, how do you cope […]
Tulsa Couples Counseling: Communication Differences Between Venting and Vomiting in Marriage and How to Fix It
A Tulsa Couples Counselor Talks About a Common Communication Problem In Marriage, and How To Change It Communicating with your spouse can take various forms. In this blog, we discuss the difference between “venting” and verbal “vomiting.” Venting can be healthy if in a safe and trusted relationship, is non-threating and non-blaming, and has the […]
Additional Counseling Tips to Help Couples in Tulsa To “Fight Fair”
Additional Tips to Help Couples in Tulsa To “Fight Fair” In a previous blog post, we shared 11 counseling tips to help Tulsa couple fight in a healthier way. Today, we are even more therapeutic tips to help you improve this area of your marriage. Remember, the goals of fair fighting are to be heard, […]
3 Parenting Tips to Respond to Your Child’s Meltdowns
How to Stop Your Child’s Meltdowns As a therapist that has worked with kids for the past 10 years and a mother of three children with very different temperaments, I have faced my share of meltdowns. I’ve seen it all- from screaming and stomping to throwing things. I’ve seen meltdowns from a result of being […]
Are You A Consumption Addict?
As a therapist, I’ve talked to many clients in my practice in the Tulsa, Oklahoma area who have struggled with mental health problems as they try to manage anxiety, depression, or stress. Or, they have developed a chronic illness or had a physical injury that takes time to adjust to. They might come in for counseling […]
Using Stress To Perform Your Best
Finding The Sweet Spot of Stress It’s so easy to feel overwhelmed and fall out of routines that help you deal with stress. And there is a lot of things about stress that makes it difficult to manage, you can read about that here. But not all stress is bad. Some stress is essential for us to […]
How One Question Can Set Your Priority and Change Your Life
At Legacy Counseling Service in Broken Arrow, Oklahoma helping clients clarify their values and make choices that are consistent with those values is a top priority for me. When we are living out of line with our values we open ourselves up to increased chance of anxiety symptoms, depression, insomnia, health and relationship problems. Back […]
The Over Use of Technology is a Buzz Kill
I often think that the better way is the long way, the harder way. So, I tend to cook most of my meals rather than eat out, I’d rather paint it myself than hire someone, and I’d rather knit (yes, I used to do this back in the day) than buy a blanket. To me, […]