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Tulsa Christian Counseling for Mental Health

As mental health providers who are Christians, our goal in the therapy room is to love and empower you, not to pass judgment or persuade you to our specific beliefs. When in doubt about differing beliefs or lifestyles, we err on the side of love and understanding. We...

The First Counseling Steps Towards Leaving Domestic Violence

October is Domestic Violence Awareness month.  I thought it might be a good idea to just review some facts regarding domestic violence and offer some help for those who are in the midst of the battle. At Legacy Counseling Service in Tulsa, we counsel people who are...
6 Signs of Depression in Teens

6 Signs of Depression in Teens

Ask any parent what their main job is and they will tell you it’s protecting their children and keeping them safe. New parents spend hours, if not days, baby-proofing the house. They research the best car seats and bike helmets and figure out ways to ensure their kids...

Understanding Teen Suicide

Understanding Teen Suicide Why? That always seems to be the question that everyone asks when a loved one or friend has committed suicide.  Unfortunately, there is not always a clear-cut answer to that question.  The Center for Disease Control reports suicide is the...
How To Stop Beating Yourself Up

How To Stop Beating Yourself Up

When was the last time you heard from your inner critic? You know, that voice in your head that constantly judges you, puts you down and compares you to others. The one that tells you you’re not good enough or smart enough and says things you would never dream of...

What Does It Mean For YOU to hire a Christian Counselor in Tulsa?

In our work as therapists in Tulsa and Broken Arrow, we introduce ourselves as “a Christian counselor.” Sometimes people don’t really understand what that actually means. It is part of our title just as Licensed Professional Counselor, Marriage and Family Therapist,...

11 Counseling Tips to Help Couples in Tulsa “Fight Fair”

In marriage, we are not always going to agree and get along perfectly. When we disagree, the ideal way to manage is to hear one another’s concerns and make the best choice for the marriage and family functioning. A healthy marriage is measured in how we work together...
How to Get the Most Out of Couples Therapy

How to Get the Most Out of Couples Therapy

As a therapist, I often have a front row seat to relationship miracles. Well, okay, there are no miracles really. The fact is “fixing” a relationship takes work. It takes two people wanting it to work and then putting in the effort. Having said that, I have seen...
3 Parenting Tips to Stop Your Child’s Meltdowns

3 Parenting Tips to Stop Your Child’s Meltdowns

As a mental health therapist that has worked with elementary-aged kids for the past 10 years and a mother of three children with very different temperaments, I have faced my share of meltdowns. I’ve seen it all- from screaming and stomping to throwing things. I’ve...

Why You Can’t Let Your Emotions Control How You Parent

As a licensed mental health counselor at Legacy Counseling Service in Broken Arrow, Oklahoma, and as a previous elementary aged school counselor, I have seen many parents lose it when it comes to their kids. Why are we so quick to lose our cool when our kids make us...

Three Ways to Celebrate Your Child’s Good Behavior

As a licensed mental health counselor who provides therapy to elementary aged children and families at Legacy Counseling Service in Broken Arrow/Tulsa, Oklahoma, I’m always looking for new ways to use positive reinforcements when it comes the families I counsel and...

3 Things You Need to Know About Counseling

Have you found yourself toying with the idea of mental health counseling? Maybe your life just isn’t as fulfilling as it once was and you can’t quite figure out why. You’ve found yourself depressed or overly anxious and you’re just not sure what to do next. Perhaps...

How to Build a Healthy Parent/Adult Child Relationship

In my mental health counseling sessions with women at Legacy Counseling Service in Broken Arrow and Tulsa, I come across a common theme of changes to the parent and adult child relationship. The strain of these changes often leave a parent feeling confused, distant,...

3 Ways to Become Forgetful of Emotional Pain

Now, if you’re like me, you really don’t need help learning how to be forgetful. I can easily forget where I left my keys and just as easily forget my own kids names (you know how it goes…Joe, Dan, Steve, I mean, Randy! You name the whole tribe before you get to the...

What to Do When YOUR Child Is the Bully

As a licensed professional counselor at Legacy Counseling Service in Broken Arrow and a previous school counselor, I often hear from parents of children who have been bullied. They are looking for ways to help their child overcome the trauma of having been victimized...

The Why, What, & How of Bullying and How Counseling Can Help

As a mental health teen counselor for over 10 years, I heard a lot of stories from kids bullying. I heard questions like, “why me?” “what’s wrong with me?”, and “how do I get her to stop?” As a licensed mental health counselor at Legacy Counseling Service I work with...
5 Amazing Outcomes that Can Come from Family Therapy

5 Amazing Outcomes that Can Come from Family Therapy

Many people wish they could belong to a family that resembles the Brady Bunch. But the truth is, most of us belong to families that are not nearly as perfect or copacetic. Families are as complicated as the individuals who make them up. Though each family is entirely...
3 Ways to Cultivate More Self-Compassion

3 Ways to Cultivate More Self-Compassion

Many people are brought up to always be kind to others. But how many of us were taught to be kind to ourselves? Self-compassion, or self-love, can often seem like a foreign concept, particularly to those raised in an abusive or unloving home. Self- compassion and...
3 Natural Ways to Help Your Child’s ADHD

3 Natural Ways to Help Your Child’s ADHD

It is estimated that ADHD affects roughly 9% of American children between the ages of 13 and 18. ADHD can make ordinary childhood activities like going to school and being part of a sport’s team incredibly difficult. It can make life at home challenging as well....

3 Parenting Tips to Respond to Your Child’s Meltdowns

How to Stop Your Child’s Meltdowns As a therapist that has worked with kids for the past 10 years and a mother of three children with very different temperaments, I have faced my share of meltdowns.  I’ve seen it all- from screaming and stomping to throwing things....
5 Ways to Recognize Addiction Before it Takes Over

5 Ways to Recognize Addiction Before it Takes Over

Drug and alcohol use in this country is on the rise, with over 23 million Americans addicted. To put that into clearer perspective, that’s one in every ten people in the United States over the age of 12 that are currently struggling with substance abuse. But what is...
How to Tell if Therapy is Right for You

How to Tell if Therapy is Right for You

When it comes to your physical health, it’s pretty easy to know whether or not you need to see a doctor. If you catch a cold, there’s really no need to make an appointment; however, if you break your ankle, you need to immediately get to an emergency room. But when it...
Afraid of Failure? Here’s Advice on Coping with Failure

Afraid of Failure? Here’s Advice on Coping with Failure

Fear of failure causes us to put the brakes on our life. When we’re so afraid of failing at something, we either don’t try at all, or we subconsciously undermine or own efforts to avoid an even bigger failure. Without question, fear of failure is immobilizing and,...
The Importance of Creating & Sharing Goals as a Couple

The Importance of Creating & Sharing Goals as a Couple

Many authors, from Viktor Frankl to Deepak Chopra, have discussed the importance of living a purposeful life. It is purpose that allows us to transcend ourselves and create meaningful moments. Frankl believed that a pursuit in meaning in life is far more important...
4 Things You Need to Know About Adolescent Anxiety

4 Things You Need to Know About Adolescent Anxiety

Anxiety is like fire: It can keep us safe and warm, or completely devastate our property and our lives. It’s good to be a little anxious at times. When walking down a deserted street at night, anxiety keeps us on alert and ready to fight or take flight should a...
When a Family Member Becomes an Addict

When a Family Member Becomes an Addict

Addiction doesn’t just affect those who are abusing drugs or alcohol, it affects everyone around them as well. When a family member becomes an addict, it is often hard to know the right thing to say or how to act around them. But there are things you can do to help...
Rethink The “Gratitude” Challenge

Rethink The “Gratitude” Challenge

A New Way To Be Thankful It’s common during this season of the year to see “gratitude challenges” on social media, or to create “gratitude jars” at home. I really do love these concepts, and gratitude is something that I help people actively focus on at my counseling...

Are You A Consumption Addict?

As a therapist, I’ve talked to many clients in my practice in the Tulsa, Oklahoma area who have struggled with mental health problems as they try to manage anxiety, depression, or stress. Or, they have developed a chronic illness or had a physical injury that takes...

Using Stress To Perform Your Best

Finding The Sweet Spot of Stress It’s so easy to feel overwhelmed and fall out of routines that help you deal with stress. And there is a lot of things about stress that makes it difficult to manage, you can read about that here. But not all stress is bad. Some stress...

4 Ways to Stop Being So Busy…for Good!

John Hopkins Health Review just released a really great article about our problem of busyness and the problems that can stem from it, including: insomnia, faulty moral decision making, and stress. The article goes on to offer one main tip on how to change our...

9 Life Hacks from a Psychologist

Life is busy! Sometimes the pace and stress of life can make even the little things frustrating. Sometimes, we just need little ways to make life easier. At Legacy Counseling Service in Broken Arrow, Oklahoma, Dr. Leedy provides therapy for adults who are struggling...

6 Things About Stress You May Not Know

What Is Stress? Stress is a major factor involved in anxiety, depression, chronic pain, insomnia, heart disease, gastrointestinal problems, etc. If it’s a mental health or physical health problem it’s likely that stress plays some role in the cause, or continuation,...

6 Ways to Create Winning Habits like an Olympic Athlete

The Olympics are here! I love the games and am so amazed by the physical and mental strength that Olympic athletes have developed at such a young age. I looked into what habits Olympians have so that we can learn how to create our own winning habits. Huffington Post...

10 Minutes To Calm: A Quick Strategy to Reduce Anxiety at Work

Most of us have those days at work when we suddenly have a feeling of nervousness or anxiety. At Legacy Counseling Service in Broken Arrow, Oklahoma, Dr. Leedy comes across this a lot in the people she works with. Maybe something didn’t go right, you have an...

How One Question Can Set Your Priority and Change Your Life

At Legacy Counseling Service in Broken Arrow, Oklahoma helping clients clarify their values and make choices that are consistent with those values is a top priority for me. When we are living out of line with our values we open ourselves up to increased chance of...

How Writing Can Improve Mental Health

Recently I was unpacking boxes as I continue to settle in from moving from Florida back to the Tulsa, Oklahoma area to start my private practice, Legacy Counseling Service. If you’re wondering why in the world I moved from sunny Tampa to Tulsa, I will simply tell you...

Why It’s Smart to Make Time To Worry

What is worry? It’s smart to my time to worry. At Legacy Counseling Service in Broken Arrow, Oklahoma, Dr. Leedy helps people who worry for all sorts of reasons. We all struggle with this from time to time, some people more than others. You may be known as a...

What Are Depression Symptoms?

Depression: More common that you think Depression can happen to any person.  It doesn’t care what you look like, what you do for a living, or how “immune” you think you are. About 6 out of 100 adults will experience an episode of depression this...

The Over Use of Technology is a Buzz Kill

I often think that the better way is the long way, the harder way. So, I tend to cook most of my meals rather than eat out, I’d rather paint it myself than hire someone, and I’d rather knit (yes, I used to do this back in the day) than buy a blanket.  To...

Struggling with Uncertainty? Your Not Alone

I don’t know about people in other parts of the world, but I think in the US we really struggle with uncertainty.  So much is out of our control, we can’t predict or plan.  What do we do with all that pent up anxiety from not being able to control our...

11 Cool Apps for Physical and Mental Health

I love some of these apps! Some of them come from the Department of Defense and I used them regularly with veterans to help them keep up with skills in between our sessions. Some I use for myself, and others friends have told me about. Check them out and let me know...

6 Tips to Make the Most out of Your Online Counseling Sessions

6 TIPS TO MAKE THE MOST OUT OF ONLINE COUNSELING SESSIONS   Online counseling, or telehealth, is relatively new in the medical and mental health field so we don’t yet have a TON of research to know if video or face-to-face counseling is better, or for what things it...

4 Questions to Ask Before Signing Up For Online Counseling

Asking for help from a professional can be really scary and hard. You might worry about running into your psychologist at the store or at dinner. You might wonder if word will get out that you are seeing a professional, or if your secrets be shared. You may wonder if...

Companies Change the Culture of Sleep in the Workplace

I love this article from the Chicago Tribune about changing the culture of sleep in the workplace, http://www.chicagotribune.com/business/careers/ct-huppke-work-advice-0313-biz-20160311-column.html. For far too long we have prided ourselves on being so busy and having...

Apps to Help You Sleep?

Apps to Help You Sleep? Each month I try to give you some apps that apply to the “problem of the month.” I searched a couple of sites and found claims for the “BEST” apps to help you sleep. Most these apps, I’ve noticed, are centered on relaxing sounds or tracking...

Get your heart rate up to improve your sleep!

If you recall from my previous post (http://legacycounselingservice.com/7-secrets-to-improve-your-sleep/), exercise is one of many things you might need to add in to your daily regimen to improve your sleep. Check out the summary from this study that talks about the...

Could Your Smart Phone Be Keeping You Up at Night?

COULD YOUR SMART PHONE BE KEEPING YOU UP AT NIGHT? It’s no secret that many of us wind down at night by laying in bed and scrolling social media sites or reading on a tablet, Nook, or Kindle. Although you may think this is a good way for you to relax and get sleepy,...

7 Secrets To Improve Your Sleep

7 SECRETS TO IMPROVE YOUR SLEEP If you struggle with sleeping, then you may not have great sleep habits. These 7 tips from sleep specialist may help you get some much needed Zzzzzs. Now, before you decide only one or two of these tips apply to you, I suggest that you...

Meeting patients where they are.

“Only that in you which is me can hear what I’m saying.” ― Ram Dass I can’t help a person if I don’t meet them where they are.  I need to be quiet and listen for where my patient is, psychologically, emotionally, behaviorally and physically.  If I...

Are You Accidentally Causing Your Insomnia?

Are You Accidentally Causing Your Insomnia? Insomnia, which is defined as problems falling asleep, staying sleep, or waking up too early and not being able to fall back asleep and these problems occur for 3 or more nights and for 3 or more months, can be caused by any...

These Complications of Insomnia Will Surprise You!

I love this quick visual to understand the complications of insomnia. Many of these complications have to do with how our hormones and neurotransmitters are impacted by chronic lack of sleep. Is there anything you are surprised by when you look at this? Let me know by...

How Sleep Deprived Are You? Take the quiz now!

Do you frequently feel tired during the day, possibly even sleepy to the point where you nod off unintentionally?  Do you notice that you are grumpy, have difficulty concentrating, or are easily distractible during the day because of not getting enough sleep? Sleep...

What you didn’t know about insomnia

Did you know that adult insomnia is recognized as a serious public health problem by the CDC? Not only is insufficient sleep associated with car accidents, industrial disasters, and work-related errors, but people who have insomnia are more likely to have problems...

The Lies Your Anxious Mind Tells You and How To Fight Back!

The Top 5 Lies Your Anxious Mind Might Be Telling You and How You Can Fight Back! If you struggle with anxiety, you know that it’s hard to turn you mind off. No matter the distraction, your anxious mind can move from the back seat to the driver’s seat without you even...

Are Medications a Good Treatment Option for Anxiety?

Are Medications a Good Treatment Option for Anxiety? Being a psychologist, I’m a bit biased and believe that psychotherapy is the best approach to treating anxiety. However, I do believe that there is a place for medication in the treatment of anxiety and certainly...

6 Powerful Lessons I’ve Learned from Anxiety, Part II

Thanks for joining me again! I hope you enjoyed reading about my own experience of anxiety and about some of the lessons I’ve learned from anxiety. Today I’m going to wrap this up by sharing with you that last three things that the anxiety from starting my...

6 POWERFUL LESSONS I’VE LEARNED FROM ANXIETY, PART I

Hi again! Today I want to follow-up on my previous post “True Confessions of Anxiety from a Psychologist” and share what I’ve been learning. I hope these will be helpful to you. Let’s delve right in to the first 3 lessons! 1st Lesson: There is power in support For...

True Confessions of Anxiety from a Psychologist

Hi everyone. Throughout the month of March, and by special request, I’ll be talking about anxiety – the different types of anxiety, how you can manage it, the role of psychotherapy and medications, etc.   Because we ALL experience anxiety at some point in our life to...

3 Secrets to Relieve the Pressure of Perfectionism

I’ve been thinking about how life is messy. It just is. You can plan and prepare and do the thing, but somewhere in that process there is bound to be a mess! And we tend to get upset about it…. even I do! Sometimes we get so hung up on having things appear perfect or...

What you Didn’t Know About Stress and Chronic Pain

Throughout the month of February, I’ve been writing about chronic pain. Today I’m going to give you the skinny on how bad stress affects chronic pain. Let’s start with what stress is. We all have stress. If you are a living, breathing, human being you have some degree...

One Mistake that May Ruin Your Relationships

Do you ever notice that you have a tendency to blame another person when they make a mistake? I mean, blame THEM, as in “she is inconsiderate; he is lazy; he is a jerk who doesn’t care about anyone; she is selfish” and the list could go on and on and on. I was...

3 Ways to Relax and Manage Chronic Pain

Hi again! Throughout the month of February, I’ve been sharing information about Chronic Pain. Today I’m going to tell you about three ways in which you can use relaxation to manage your pain. One of the hard aspects of dealing with chronic pain is that the pain you...

Random Reflections from a Psychologist: The Elusive Search for Balance

“How do you balance it all?” How many times have you heard this question and answered with false pride: “Well, I just _______ and _______; it’s hard but I manage it!” like we have figured out the magic formula for getting it all done while feeling, looking, and acting...

How a Psychologist Views Chronic Pain

If you have been following my posts this month you know that I’ve been sharing information on Chronic Pain. If you have chronic pain, or if you have a loved one with chronic pain, this may be the first time you’ve ever heard of a psychologist treating pain, and you...

What is Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy for Chronic Pain?

  Chronic pain is a common medical condition in the United States that is caused from a variety of injuries and illnesses. Chronic pain is very complex and difficult to treat; usually people have better results when a variety of approaches are used, such as...

“It’s All in Your Head”: A Half Truth

Many people with chronic health conditions, such as chronic pain, migraines, Fibromyalgia, and gastrointestinal disorders, might be told that their symptoms are “all in your head” when traditional medicine can’t provide answers. Hearing this can be very frustrating,...

Dr. Susana Kugeares Shares with Me

My colleague and friend Dr. Susana Kugeares, Ph.D. shares some thoughts about thriving in your environment. I love her nature analogies. I had this realization this morning: in nature, there are different kinds of plants. Each needs different conditions in order to...