A Tulsa Couples Counselor Talks About a Common Communication Problem In Marriage, and How To Change It Communicating with your spouse can take various forms. In this blog, we discuss the difference between “venting” and verbal “vomiting.” Venting can be healthy if in a safe and trusted relationship, is non-threating and non-blaming, and has the […]
Additional Counseling Tips to Help Couples in Tulsa To “Fight Fair”
Additional Tips to Help Couples in Tulsa To “Fight Fair” In a previous blog post, we shared 11 counseling tips to help Tulsa couple fight in a healthier way. Today, we are even more therapeutic tips to help you improve this area of your marriage. Remember, the goals of fair fighting are to be heard, […]
11 Counseling Tips to Help Couples in Tulsa “Fight Fair”
In marriage, we are not always going to agree and get along perfectly. When we disagree, the ideal way to manage is to hear one another’s concerns and make the best choice for the marriage and family functioning. A healthy marriage is measured in how we work together and solve problems. Counseling couples to help […]
How to Get the Most Out of Couples Therapy
As a therapist, I often have a front row seat to relationship miracles. Well, okay, there are no miracles really. The fact is “fixing” a relationship takes work. It takes two people wanting it to work and then putting in the effort. Having said that, I have seen couples go from nearly ending it to being back in […]
Post-Baby Disconnect? 3 Ways to Stay More Connected After Having a Baby
No matter how many times they were warned, few new parents are prepared for the life-changing event of the birth of their first child. No more sleeping in on Saturday, then heading to your favorite restaurant for brunch with friends. These leisurely activities are replaced with sleepless nights and endless diaper changes. It’s no surprise […]
The Importance of Creating & Sharing Goals as a Couple
Many authors, from Viktor Frankl to Deepak Chopra, have discussed the importance of living a purposeful life. It is purpose that allows us to transcend ourselves and create meaningful moments. Frankl believed that a pursuit in meaning in life is far more important than the pursuit of happiness, as meaning connects us to our past, […]
One Mistake that May Ruin Your Relationships
Do you ever notice that you have a tendency to blame another person when they make a mistake? I mean, blame THEM, as in “she is inconsiderate; he is lazy; he is a jerk who doesn’t care about anyone; she is selfish” and the list could go on and on and on. I was thinking […]