It’s 10pm. Do you know where your junk food is? Unfortunately, it’s a bad habit many of us can relate to: that unwanted craving for junk food. Whether it’s a craving for ice cream right after dinner, or a hankering for potato chips while you watch the nightly news, food cravings are a bad habit […]
5 Tips for Making Friends in Midlife
For many people, middle age is the catalyst to take stock of life. The kids have flown the coop and there’s more time to reconsider your likes, dislikes, goal, and dreams. Middle age is also the time we tend to look around at our social circles. Are our friendships still there? Have we lost friends […]
3 Signs Social Media Is Hindering Your Happiness
How long has it been since you checked your Facebook page or Twitter account? If you’re like most people, you use social media many times throughout the day. But while you may think social media is fun, studies have suggested that it can take a toll on our emotions. One such study by researchers at […]
Tulsa Christian Counseling for Mental Health
As mental health providers who are Christians, our goal in the therapy room is to love and empower you, not to pass judgment or persuade you to our specific beliefs. When in doubt about differing beliefs or lifestyles, we err on the side of love and understanding. We believe that every person is of great […]
3 Things You Need to Know About Counseling
Have you found yourself toying with the idea of mental health counseling? Maybe your life just isn’t as fulfilling as it once was and you can’t quite figure out why. You’ve found yourself depressed or overly anxious and you’re just not sure what to do next. Perhaps your marriage is struggling. You’ve never had therapy […]
3 Ways to Become Forgetful of Emotional Pain
Now, if you’re like me, you really don’t need help learning how to be forgetful. I can easily forget where I left my keys and just as easily forget my own kids names (you know how it goes…Joe, Dan, Steve, I mean, Randy! You name the whole tribe before you get to the one you […]
How to Tell if Therapy is Right for You
When it comes to your physical health, it’s pretty easy to know whether or not you need to see a doctor. If you catch a cold, there’s really no need to make an appointment; however, if you break your ankle, you need to immediately get to an emergency room. But when it comes to your […]
Are You A Consumption Addict?
As a therapist, I’ve talked to many clients in my practice in the Tulsa, Oklahoma area who have struggled with mental health problems as they try to manage anxiety, depression, or stress. Or, they have developed a chronic illness or had a physical injury that takes time to adjust to. They might come in for counseling […]
The Over Use of Technology is a Buzz Kill
I often think that the better way is the long way, the harder way. So, I tend to cook most of my meals rather than eat out, I’d rather paint it myself than hire someone, and I’d rather knit (yes, I used to do this back in the day) than buy a blanket. To me, […]
Struggling with Uncertainty? Your Not Alone
I don’t know about people in other parts of the world, but I think in the US we really struggle with uncertainty. So much is out of our control, we can’t predict or plan. What do we do with all that pent up anxiety from not being able to control our circumstances? Why are we […]
Meeting patients where they are.
“Only that in you which is me can hear what I’m saying.” ― Ram Dass I can’t help a person if I don’t meet them where they are. I need to be quiet and listen for where my patient is, psychologically, emotionally, behaviorally and physically. If I skip this step, and tell them what I […]
Random Reflections from a Psychologist: The Elusive Search for Balance
“How do you balance it all?” How many times have you heard this question and answered with false pride: “Well, I just _______ and _______; it’s hard but I manage it!” like we have figured out the magic formula for getting it all done while feeling, looking, and acting our best all the time. But […]
Random Reflections from a Psychologist: How Your Thoughts May Trick Your Mind
Psychological science has a great term for understanding where we focus our thoughts: confirmation bias. Confirmation Bias is basically our tendency to search for, or interpret, information that confirms our perception. So, if you are having thoughts that you aren’t good enough, then you will pay attention to situations in which your thoughts are confirmed […]
Psychology Today talks about the difference between a happy life and a meaningful life.
Check out the brief article here: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/living-single/201504/happy-life-or-meaningful-one-they-are-not-the-same.
Is therapy worth the investment of your time, energy, and money?
A psychiatrist says “yes!” Read this interesting article from the American Psychological Association about the investment cost of psychotherapy compared to medication. http://www.apa.org/